He said. She said.

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He said: I think you’re lovely.
She said: you’re okay I guess. 
He said: can I take you out to the movies?
She said: I’ll have a large popcorn with some Coke and jelly beans. 
He said: I love you more than all the stars in the sky.
She said: stop talking and kiss me already. 
He said: let’s get married.
She said: OMG! what a gorgeous ring!
He said: I promise to love you always.
She said: I promise to stick by you forever.
He said: you’re the best wife a guy could ask for.
She said: I couldn’t imagine my life without you. 
He said: two ply or three ply?
She said: three ply and chocolate.
He said: let’s get a puppy.
She said: let’s have a baby.
He said: what’s for dinner?
She said: dirty diapers and kisses.  
He said: you’re an amazing mother to our kids.
She said: I love you, but I wish you’d help out more around the house. 
He said: what’s the matter, you seem different.
She said: who is she?
He said: she makes my world spin.
She said: but I was your world. 
She said: you are my heart. 
He said: I’m sorry, I just don’t love you anymore. 
She said: Don’t go!
He said: Goodbye!

Promise me…

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Promise me you’ll never go anywhere without me.
If you ever left I’d have no one to give me advice on which shoes match better with that dress and these earrings,
If you ever left I’d have no one there to hold my hand while I got my first tattoo,
If you ever left I’d have no one to stalk out rental properties with on Google street view,
If you ever left I’d have no one to help me solve my very complex IT issues,
If you ever left I’d have no one to do crazy shit with, like dressing up as zombies for a mystery march to a secret location, 
If you ever left I’d have no one to get wasted on red wine with,
If you ever left I’d have no one to give me great big bear hugs when I’m ready to give up, 
If you ever left I’d have no one to put my heart back together.
So promise me you’ll never go anywhere without me… at least not today.

Today I laughed

Today I laughed. 
I laughed a good, hearty, belly ache laugh.
I laughed with all my heart and cried great big giant tears of laughter.
I laughed with so much joy, I felt as if the sun was streaming right through me.

Not because anything was particularly funny or because anyone cracked a joked. 
Not because I discovered that I had become an overnight genius.
Not because I’m slightly mental and possibly a bit delirious.
Not because my life is perfect and all my needs are met.

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I laughed because that’s what you do when you realise that life is unpredictable. 
When it dawns upon you that no matter how well you may think you have this life figured out, it will always climb up on a tight rope, do a little twirl (just to show off) and then come graciously swinging down and hit you smack bang in the face with a great big thump.

I laughed because I’m human. 
I laughed at my human disillusionment that things would go exactly according to plan, because I’d done the math, I’d seen the forecasts and according to my sources life was in fact a simple formula that could be mastered.

I laughed because life is consistent in it’s inconsistency and despite being constantly surprised by it, despite my fears and reservations, I’m happy to have this life. Happy to love and be loved, happy to experience the best of times and the worst of times, happy to laugh and cry, happy to wake up each day to a new surprise, whether good or bad.

Today I laughed. I laughed because it was all I could do.

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Right on time!

Tropicana’s major sun installation in Trafalgar Square yesterday.

Sometimes I wonder where I would be right now if I had made different decisions in my life. If maybe I had stayed on in that great corporate job earning a good salary, I’d be settled in a nice comfortable lifestyle. Maybe I’d have been better off if I had not gone back home to finish my degree or if I’d lived somewhere else in the world…etc…etc…etc.

For the past month or so I’ve been having a lot of ‘what if moments’. Unemployed, in a different city, with only my savings to live off, I was starting to feel a little more than out of my depth and the gloomy weather wasn’t particularly helping the situation.

But in the space of a week, that all turned around. A short visit from my family gave me the pick-me-up I needed. Two job interviews later, I landed myself a job in communications, my three-week old cold finally packed up and left and the sun decided to come out in Trafalgar Square. In short, I got my mojo back.

Things don’t always happen just the way you want them to or when you want, but when they do, it’s always right on time! 🙂


They say the people you love the most are also the ones who have the ability to hurt you the most. I’ve experienced this first hand and I must say its like a dagger straight to the heart. But the most amazing thing is that it doesn’t kill you, as cliché as it sounds, it does only make you stronger. 
The hurt and resentment may linger for a while, but it soon fades if you’re willing to let go of it. The longer you hold onto it though, the more it eats away at the core of you and in some cases it may eventually destroy you. 
I’ve learnt a few things about people in my lifetime. I’ve learnt that no other living creature can produce as much affection as another person and that almost no other living creature can hurt you more. I’ve learnt that people can be fickle, but that they are also caring. 
I’ve learnt that people are cruel, that they make mistakes, that they sometimes have bad judgement, that they can say hurtful things without a second thought, that they like to gossip; but most importantly, I’ve learnt that people need forgiveness. 
So let bygones be bygones. Because as George Michael said: ”People….You can never change the way they feel. Better let them do just what they will. For they will. If you let them steal your heart from you.” You can’t change ‘them’ but you can change how you react 😉
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The art of disillusionment

Funny how we thought we were being all grown up and making grown up decisions. 
How we honestly believed that we could live our lives apart. 
And the way we went about things, all head and no heart. 
Being practical, responsible adults, as if the world expected nothing less from us. 
How we convinced each other and ourselves, 
that this was the only way for things to be. 
That this decision was logical and that this was what was best for both of us. 
How we both resigned ourselves to living a life where ‘we’ didn’t exist and how when it finally came down to it, our hearts were stronger than our minds. 

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Only bad things happen quickly

Death, car accidents, falling down stairs, being hijacked, being mauled by a bear, are what I would consider as bad things. The saying goes that only bad things happen quickly and perhaps that’s true. Maybe bad things have such a brief lifespan when they occur to the reduce the amount of pain you feel when you’re hit by a truck or slapped through the face.

I believe that human beings are resilient and that we can bounce back from anything. Sometimes the pain is brief, but the healing process is lengthy, but it makes us appreciate the good things in life so much more. The belief that something better lies ahead, keeps us moving and the patient knowledge that good things comes to those who wait, is what keeps us motivated. So we take the good with the bad, because ‘you can’t have a rainbow without a little rain.’

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My kind of "People"

“People, People who need people, are the luckiest people in the world.”

I’m not ashamed to admit that I’m a bit of a closet Barbara Streisand fan, ever since I saw the movie Funny Girl. The lyrics above are taken from one of my favourite songs by Streisand, coincidently called ‘People’. Who’d have guessed it right?
After a break from my studies, I decided to come back to uni this year and finished off what I started. So there I was, feeling like a fish out of water amongst a crowd of new faces and feeling a little old and out of place. At first, I must admit it took a bit of getting used to, but now that I’m nearly at the end of this epic long year, I can honestly say that I’m so happy to have been thrown in amongst this group of totally awesome people. 
So here’s the part where this gets a bit sentimental. It’s been a very long and challenging year and often it felt like I just didn’t have anything left to give, but thanks to my ‘peoples’ I’ve managed to survive. It’s not often that you get mashed together in a very stressful environment, with a group of strangers and you actually end up liking them. They’re a bunch of weird, quirky, special, funny, loud, crazy, expressive, and loveable people who (without knowing it) have helped me stay sane throughout this very draining year.
So, here’s to ‘the people’ who’ve made this year an absolute blast and made me realise that we all need people in order to survive. People like the Kardashian Clan in the back of the class; the Afrikaans meisie who goes gagga for Foster the People; the skater chick with the Cape Flats twang; the bubbly little person with the hyper laugh; the Class Rep with no clutch control; the Chatterbox Brit and her clan; the fashion concious Frenchie; the witty Twitter bug who everyone loves; the friendliest guy with the deepest voice I’ve ever heard; the noughts and crosses crew at the back of Research and the very well-versed Tourist Guide.  
To all of you, who’ve made this year bearable, because after all, ‘people who need people, are the luckiest people in the world’! You’re all Legends!!!

Oh the places you’ll go!

I’ve always considered myself to be a bit of an explorer. I love discovering new places, jetting off to different countries and getting to know more about people’s cultures and so its no surprise that my favourite Cat in the Hat book is Oh the places you’ll go!

It’s one of my all time favourite books, although I’ve never owned a copy, something which I hope to remedy soon. However, everytime I read the book it sparks something inside me and inspires me to explore further than my little corner of the earth. One of my favourite lines from the book goes a little something like this: ‘ So be sure when you step. Step with great care and great tact and remember that Life’s a Great Balancing Act. ‘

I think the book describes the life of a traveller very well, because it talks about the great adventures you’ll have and the exciting things and places you’ll discover, but it also reminds you of how lonely it can be, how sometimes you’ll fall on hard times and the winds will get knocked out of your sails, something I can relate to. I absolutely adore this book and once I get my hands on a copy, I’ll be sure to pass on the lessons in the book to my own children one day. That Dr. Seuss, he sure is a wise guy 😉

An excerpt from the great Dr. Seuss (Oh the places you’ll go):

‘And will you succeed? 
Yes! You will, indeed! (98 and  ¾ percent guaranteed.)
Kid, you’ll move mountains! 
So…be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray or Mordecai Ale Van Allen O’ Shea, you’re off to Great Places! Today is your day! Your mountain is waiting. 
So… get on your way!’ 

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Why I have conversations

I spent a lot of time in my previous job speaking to people. Many of them who were near to then end of their lives, many who were terminally ill or were dealing with life altering conditions. Some were young, as young as 8 years old and still afraid of the Boogie Man. Others were ancient, 80, 90 years old and had survived not one, but two World Wars. All of them fighting their own battles, but each one of them had one thing in common, they needed someone to listen, someone to talk to.

For the most part, I was there to make sure that they were taken care of. Administering meds at different times of the day, cooking up nutritious meals for breakfast, lunch & supper, that sort of thing. But, that was the easy part, because although all of these things contributed to their well-being, the only thing all of them wanted was someone to talk to, someone who would really listen to them.

You see, they’d talk all day, most of them anyway. Talk to their daughters 3000 miles away, enquiring about their health and what they were eating. They’d talk to their doctors who’d ask them about their symptoms and medication refills. They’d talk to their friends who never stopped by anymore, because their lives were far too busy. Talk, talk, talk! Lots of talk about lots of important things, but all they really wanted to talk about was what was on their minds.

I guess that’s where I came in. I’d sit and listen for hours as a 98 year old war veteran suffering from cancer, would tell me about scaling the Straits of Gibraltar. I’d listen to a 9 year old girl, who suffered from more than 10 epileptic episodes a day, tell me all about her imaginary friend Bunny and their magical adventures. I’d listen as 48 year old artist and icon, dying of an incurable brain disease, shared her life stories with me, using what was left of her memory and limited vocabulary. I’d listen to them all talk about love, life, loss, about their fears, their hope and dreams, about how they’d been forgotten, how all they wanted was for someone to care, all they wanted was to say the things they never got to say.

I have conversations with people because sometimes all anybody needs is someone to listen, sometimes people just want to hear about your problems to escape their own bleak reality. Sometimes it’s just good to know that there’s someone else in the room and you’re not alone.

Most of the time, it wasn’t so much what they said,  but what they didn’t say that stayed with me. Their eyes and body language spoke louder than any words could ever and the saddest part was that their daughters 3000 miles away or friends who only remembered them by means of Christmas Cards once a year would never hear those unsaid things, which could not be said in a letter or in telephone calls. The conversations I had with these individuals are some of the most memorable and treasured conversations I’ve had in my lifetime and they will stay locked in my heart forever.

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