Feelings follow behaviour

I’d like to believe that the way in which each person reacts to a specific situation is largely based on their own personal judgement and conditions. However, of late I’ve reassessed this viewpoint, as I think  that the way we react to various situations are often governed by the people who influence us the most in life. Our reactions are largely based on what we observe by means of the people who mean the most to us or the people we spend the most time around. For most of us that may be a parent, a sibling, a husband, a wife or even just a good friend.

There’s a poem that I’ve always loved and I think sums up perfectly what I’m trying to say, so instead of rambling on, I give you the brilliant words of Dorothy Law Nolte:

Children Learn What They Live
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
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